I know why people believe in reincarnation
Although I personally think it’s a bunch of poppycock, I see why some people believe it. My older son looks so much like his father, that it’s incredible — his mom says that looking at Keith running around and playing is like seeing Chuck as a little boy again. While he does have some of my facial features (a very few), his overall look is basically Chuck. And my younger son looks a whole lot like my dad’s baby pictures. I have some snapshots of my son, and I’ve seen similar photos of my dad (who died nearly ten years ago), and the resemblance is striking.
Just for what it’s worth, the phrase “spittin’ image” is a bastardization of the phrase “spirit and image” — meaning, of course, that one person (usually a child or grandchild) is exactly like another in both his face and personality.
Charlie and the Chocolate Factory
I watched this movie for the first time recently, and must say I was very pleasantly surprised. Having grown up on Gene Wilder’s version (Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory), I was tentative to say the least at messing with a good movie. When I was little, I assumed that Willy Wonka was true to the book, but I’ve never read the book; I have, however, read the sequel — Charlie and the Great Glass Elevator — and enjoyed it. Since that time, I’ve heard that the original movie was not that close to the book, and I remember hearing that the author, Roald Dahl, did not like the movie, or regretted that he’d sold the copyright, or whatever. Still, I wasn’t sure that the new movie — even if it were taken directly from the book — could be better than the old. I was wrong.
When I was at the library a couple of weeks ago, I saw the movie available for borrowing — and you can’t get better than seeing the movie for free! — so I got it, knowing that my mother-in-law was going to be coming in late the next night, and I expected to wait up alone for her (my husband has to get up early in the morning, and doesn’t sleep well, so typically goes to bed around 8-8:30), and decided that watching a movie would be just the ticket to pass the time. I figured I’d screen the movie first, and if I liked it, recommend it to my husband, or recommend that he stay away from it — he was more fond of the original than I was, and I rather suspected that his reaction to the movie would be similar to someone suggesting that we need to alter the Bible somehow. In other words, that the old movie was near-sacred!
(Exaggerating for clarity, here.)
Well, it didn’t work out that way — my husband came home and took a nap, and we stayed up together to wait for his mom. I tentatively suggested watching the movie, and he agreed — and loved it!! I was so surprised!
At first, I was a little unsure (Johnny Depp’s “Willy Wonka” reminds me of Michael Jackson after all his plastic surgeries), but it was a very good flick. Being 30+ years newer than the old one, it had a lot more technology at its disposal (computer animation techniques and I don’t know what else), so the special effects were very believable. My only problem with the movie is that some of the parts scared or concerned my son — which is totally acceptable, because he’s not quite 4, and the movie is rated PG. If you’ve seen the original movie or read the book, you know that all of the children except Charlie are disposed of as they go through the chocolate factory — Augustus Gloop falls into a river and is sucked up a pipe; Mike Teavee is shrunk in a TV; Violet Beauregarde turns violet from chewing gun; and Veruca Salt and her dad fall into a garbage chute. While all of these things are basically benign, my 4-year-old didn’t have the background to understand what was happening, and he was really concerned about what happened to all of the children. (When Mike goes into the TV, the Oompa-Loompah is sitting there changing channels, and most of the channels have a little something scary to a 4-year-old on it — a scene I think from Psycho, where you see a hand stabbing into a tub — which is where Mike is, and he dodges the huge knife — no blood, of course – and adults “get” it, but Keith doesn’t have a clue; plus several things that look like MTV videos, with the Oompah-Loompah [in all the roles], as Kiss, Van Halen, Whitesnake, or other various hard-rock or heavy-metal groups, which are funny to adults, but can be scary to kids who have no clue why the people have weird or scary face-paint on, or are jumping around with raucous music in the background — that sort of thing.)
But I could recommend the movie, which doesn’t happen very often!
Pain and Presence in Parenting
Click here to read an excellent essay on real parenting — specifically, the difficulty that exists sometimes even in the most “mindful” of women, when faced with certain circumstances that tempt them to make choices that go against their desires. For instance, we all know we should eat healthfully and that fast food just ain’t it… yet there are those times when we still pull up to the drive-through window because of everything else that’s going on in our lives.
(Leave a comment there, too.)
Some days it’s just not worth chewing through the leather restraints
(I don’t know why, but this phrase just appeals to me on some level.)
Today was one of those days, in one respect. I like to go to yard sales, and get stuff that way rather than buying stuff new from the store. My mom gets the local paper (it’s published twice a week — oh, yeah, big local paper)
and there were several ads for yard sales. I was excited, because many times there are only two or three listed, and I knew that for so many that were listed, there are usually several more. But two of them were too far away for me to go jaunting out there just to see what they had (nothing in the descriptions sounded like it was really anything I was looking for). Still, I went to the rest, plus stopped at several other yard sales that I happened to see along the way. (And had a couple of wild-goose chases when I followed signs that must have been for last week. Sigh…) And I only got something at one of them (probably 10+ yard sales in all). I was looking for boys’ toys, and the only yard sales that had toys were either all girl toys or were baby toys. All the rest had predominantly clothes (looked like sizes I didn’t wear) and household items (which I don’t need).
I ended up buying a pair of matching lamps for my bedroom (I’ve wanted a lamp for my side of the bed for a while, and we can move the other lamp to the spare room), and a purse. Now that my kids are so close to being fully potty-trained, I am going to use my current diaper bag as only a reserve bag for in the car, and actually have a real purse for the first time in about four years! Now that I don’t need half a dozen diapers “just in case”, I can just stick one or two in my purse and leave the diaper bag in the car or at home. I won’t know what to do with myself!
Why, why, why?
My older son will be 4 in a couple of weeks, and he’s in that stage — questioning everything. The problem with kids this age is that it’s mostly just a way to have a conversation, not really to communicate. And it’s very frustrating — especially when he messes up his words, asking “who is this?” when it’s an object not a person; and asking “How?” when he means “why”; and asking what things are when he knows exactly what they are, he just wants to talk and be talked to.
I’m working on the first two, but it’s difficult to get across to him (when he asks, “who is this?” pointing at a chair) that he’s supposed to say “what”; and when I tell him he can’t do something, he asks, “How?” (meaning “why”), and how am I supposed to explain to him the difference? (I think I know — just correct him and tell him the right word to say, but still, it’s just the constant repetition which seems pointless as he keeps saying the same wrong thing over and over.)
But then there’s the constant, “Mommy, what’s that?” questions. (Actually, he says, “who’s that?”.) And it’s one thing when he doesn’t know the answer, but quite another when he does know what it means. I know he’s learning the rules of communication, and he asks questions because he doesn’t understand how to have a conversation that doesn’t center around him asking questions and me giving the answers; and occasionally he does actually ask what something is when he doesn’t know. But it is very tiring to have that (and it’s nearly doubled because my younger son will frequently parrot what my older son says — kinda like the twin Lost Boys in the original animated Peter Pan movie).
The other day, I was putting shoes on my older son, and he asked what they were. I said, “Keith, you know what they are. What are they?” He smiled and repeated the question again, so I said, “They’re pumpkins!” He laughed… and now says those shoes are his “pumpkin shoes.” Sigh…
How Independent are Vaccine Advocates?
Not very.
This CBS investigative news story links the top vaccine defenders with the pharmaceutical companies who produce vaccines. While not all of the money that changes hands is public information, enough millions of dollars is known to make their claims of independence suspect.
If I come up with a product I dub “Vitamin X” and I produce all sorts of studies (funded by me and performed by me), and I declare that Vitamin X will protect you from illness and has no major side effects, would you believe me? What if I had a bunch of well-educated doctors (who had lots and lots of letters after their names and everything!) come out and back up my claims… and then you found out that I had personally financed the building of their latest office building, or that I personally funded their last five research projects? Would they be any more believable than me? What is the difference when it’s major corporations instead of lil ol’ me?
I hate Halloween
The candy is fun, but I don’t need it, and I’d rather buy it the day after Halloween and spend a lot less.
But the main reason I don’t like Halloween is all the death and “spooky” things about it. Putting aside the demonic origins of the “holy-day” — getting past the fact that the reason Halloween decorations are primarily ghosts, skeletons and witches is because in ancient England October 31 was the day that the dead came back to haunt the living — the fact that all the Halloween decorations are so dark, dealing with death and demons, makes me wish for November like nothing else.
Add to that, that I have a black cat (until this year, we had two black cats, but Jack died in late January), and I worry that somebody will take him around Halloween, and November can’t get here fast enough.
I do have a funny story, though. My sister-in-law was shopping one day with her children (several years ago), and some nice old lady came up and asked the girls what they were going to dress up as for Halloween, and one of the little girls said very seriously, “We don’t celebrate Halloween. It’s evil.” The lady blinked a couple of times and said, “Okay!” and my sister-in-law got to teach her children that it is not always necessary to say the whole truth — sometimes it’s more polite to give only half an answer.

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