When I hear from abortion advocates who say that only white newborns are the only adoptable babies, I want to scream and laugh. From my small circle of friends and acquaintances, I know numerous white couples who have adopted many children who were not newborns at adoption and/or are not Caucasian. I’m going to write them here, so that next time I come across someone who seems to think abortion is okay because nobody adopts non-white children or older children, I can just direct them here, rather than writing it out again and again. When I say “older children” I’m meaning anyone over about a few months old, typically a child of about a couple years of age. Most of these people adopted because one spouse or the other is infertile, but some of them do have biological children. All couples are American, and all are white (except one person who is half-white, half-Vietnamese).
I’ll start with the only ones I know who adopted only white infants — my uncle and aunt who are both of pure Dutch ancestry, and wanted to adopt a baby who was at least half-Dutch; their two children both have full-blooded Dutch birth-mothers.
- Anna and her husband adopted two children from Ethiopia (their ages at the times of the adoptions were 13 and 7 months old)
- a couple who are friends with Anna adopted one child from Ethiopia and a black child from America (neither were newborns)
- Laura and her husband adopted a white child of about the age of 4, after his mother’s parental rights were terminated
- Curt and Fancy adopted a Hispanic newborn; they wanted to adopt their two (white) foster children (ages 3 & 5 at the start of their foster care), whom they cared for for 3 years, but the children’s mother cleaned up her act and got them back
- Curt’s brother also adopted a Hispanic newborn
- one couple I know is a white man and a half-Vietnamese woman; they unsuccessfully tried to adopt a Vietnamese child, then decided to adopt from Russia; recently, they adopted two Vietnamese children (all of whom were several months old at the time of the adoptions)
- another couple adopted three Korean children some 30 years ago, a girl and identical twin boys
- one couple in Alabama adopted three children, all in early infancy, a girl and two boys; all of the children are mixed-race
- another couple in Ohio has “his, hers, ours… and theirs“, as the mother likes to say — they each have at least one child from a previous relationship in addition to at least one child together, plus numerous children by adoption. At least one of the adopted children is mixed-race, and most if not all of them were adopted when they were older — I’ve known them since before the adoption of the last two, who are full brother and sister, and are about 2 & 4 years of age
- one couple who attended our church for a few years — they already had two white children by adoption — I believe the oldest was gotten as an infant; I’m not sure about the second. This younger child, a boy, has learning disabilities (and possibly some other kinds of disabilities), but I don’t know if the parents know this when they adopted him — I never knew he had any disabilities at the time I knew him, but it became more apparent as he grew older — he’s now about 16 and has minimal reading skills, as an example. Then while they were members of our church, they adopted three siblings who were of Hispanic descent, approximately aged 2-5 at the time of the adoption.
Most of these people may yet try to adopt again (although the older couples are probably done), since most of them have adopted their youngest children only recently — the last year or so.
I’ve come across a lot of blogs lately from women who are suffering or have suffered from infertility. I came across this website that sounds promising, so thought I’d just pass it on, in case it may help someone. One blog I read just today was from a woman who has a good chance of having a baby if they can afford their half of the infertility treatment. My thought is that couples in this situation can at least try this method (or whatever you want to call it) while they are saving money for the very expensive fertility treatments. Or perhaps they can use this in conjunction with their current treatments. Anyway, it can’t hurt to look at it. (FWIW, I have no connection with this website in any way, shape, or form; and no experience with it either. But thought it might help.) It also says that it may help with recurrent miscarriage. Just from slight browsing through the website, it looks like they look at several aspects of the woman’s body, reproductive cycle, etc., and from the signs that she has, determines what sort of treatments may be beneficial (including extra vitamins, or needing progesterone to maintain a pregnancy). Anyway, there are side bars on pre-term birth, PMS, PPD, etc., as well.